Thank you for your transparency in sharing this. Doing what works for you and the fact that you still like each other and want to be around each other matters more than doing what someone else feels is traditional or “right”.
Love love love this so much! My husband and I got married later in life (and subsequently had kids later too), and we do some things differently too. He does the dishwasher (he's the Scandinavian architect and I'm the meth racoon from the memes), handwashing of dishes and I do the cooking because I love it. He does the kids' bath times and bedtime routine, but I do other things for the kids. I agree that what we're showing our kids is that they get to choose someone who compliments them and that laughter, love and connection are more important than the "roles" we play per society.
Yes, yes, yes! The compliments them piece is so important. I am proud of us for showing our kids that they can make marriage work however they need - and I'm sure you're proud of the same things!
I love this honesty and your transparency. I find it so interesting that others feel they can judge another’s life choices. What makes their way better? Or the “right” way? It’s so backwards. When no two people are alike, no two marriages can be alike. I always think as long as there is great communication and mutual love and respect, that’s the most important thing. You and your husband are setting a wonderful example for your boys! I wish you a long and happy marriage 💜 I can guarantee the way me and my husband handle things are very different than many others also, but I don’t give a darn. It works for us and that’s all that matters!
Omg, yes to all of this! I've been hearing more and more about couples who sleep separately, and I'm not going to lie, it sounds pretty nice (my husband is a restless sleeper and a sleep talker lol). I also honestly think doing certain things separately can help a couple remain close. For example, my husband and I have always done our own laundry and to some degree, I feel like it's saved our relationship before it even needed saving 😂
ooh I should’ve added we do laundry separately too! I do mine and our kids, he does his own. And also, I won’t lie, the separate beds is a life (marriage?) saver.
I love this. Stay together, even with these non-traditional acts, and you and your cutie will have the last laugh. And your kids will get to say their parents loved and respected each other.
Oh, I absolutely love this. Traditional roles in marriage, and frankly in life, change. What the Boomers may have thought of as “normal” doesn’t necessarily work in the 21st Century. On a personal note, I think you guys are doing just fine. Hugs
Thank you <3 And I agree - there are so many forms these days of a "good marriage". Some I understand, and some I don't. And that's okay because I only need to understand my own marriage and why it works, not what someone else chooses for themselves.
You nailed there, luv. According to the statistics of the day, my marriage was doomed to fail from the minute we said “I do.” Let me count the ways: we were young (18); we had a rather tumultuous courtship (starting at age 13); our marriage license listed our occupations as “factory worker and waitress” (kinda go nowhere careers); and unbeknownst to those in attendance that day in September, the young bride was 6 weeks pregnant. A recipe for disaster. But here we are, 53 years later, proving all the naysayers wrong. Joe got a BS from UT and worked 32 years at that factory job and then was a substitute teacher for 19 years. I worked my way up from “waitress” to secretary to Criminal Bailiff for 4 different judges in 32 years. I’d say statistically speaking, “they were full of crap”.
And I would very much agree with you. I'm glad that Brandon (and the other two bozos) have had such a great model of a marriage to look at - no matter how "doomed" you may have been in the beginning.
Thank you for your transparency in sharing this. Doing what works for you and the fact that you still like each other and want to be around each other matters more than doing what someone else feels is traditional or “right”.
I completely agree. It's hard to still LIKE someone 15 years later, so the fact that we still do, I'm counting that as a win - marriage or not.
Love love love this so much! My husband and I got married later in life (and subsequently had kids later too), and we do some things differently too. He does the dishwasher (he's the Scandinavian architect and I'm the meth racoon from the memes), handwashing of dishes and I do the cooking because I love it. He does the kids' bath times and bedtime routine, but I do other things for the kids. I agree that what we're showing our kids is that they get to choose someone who compliments them and that laughter, love and connection are more important than the "roles" we play per society.
Yes, yes, yes! The compliments them piece is so important. I am proud of us for showing our kids that they can make marriage work however they need - and I'm sure you're proud of the same things!
I love this honesty and your transparency. I find it so interesting that others feel they can judge another’s life choices. What makes their way better? Or the “right” way? It’s so backwards. When no two people are alike, no two marriages can be alike. I always think as long as there is great communication and mutual love and respect, that’s the most important thing. You and your husband are setting a wonderful example for your boys! I wish you a long and happy marriage 💜 I can guarantee the way me and my husband handle things are very different than many others also, but I don’t give a darn. It works for us and that’s all that matters!
Yes! I love this, especially "when no two people are alike, no two marriages can be alike." And thank you, I appreciate this so much!
Omg, yes to all of this! I've been hearing more and more about couples who sleep separately, and I'm not going to lie, it sounds pretty nice (my husband is a restless sleeper and a sleep talker lol). I also honestly think doing certain things separately can help a couple remain close. For example, my husband and I have always done our own laundry and to some degree, I feel like it's saved our relationship before it even needed saving 😂
ooh I should’ve added we do laundry separately too! I do mine and our kids, he does his own. And also, I won’t lie, the separate beds is a life (marriage?) saver.
I love this. Stay together, even with these non-traditional acts, and you and your cutie will have the last laugh. And your kids will get to say their parents loved and respected each other.
Thank you for this! I think a lot about what our kids see when they look at us and I hope it’s exactly this.
Oh, I absolutely love this. Traditional roles in marriage, and frankly in life, change. What the Boomers may have thought of as “normal” doesn’t necessarily work in the 21st Century. On a personal note, I think you guys are doing just fine. Hugs
Thank you <3 And I agree - there are so many forms these days of a "good marriage". Some I understand, and some I don't. And that's okay because I only need to understand my own marriage and why it works, not what someone else chooses for themselves.
You nailed there, luv. According to the statistics of the day, my marriage was doomed to fail from the minute we said “I do.” Let me count the ways: we were young (18); we had a rather tumultuous courtship (starting at age 13); our marriage license listed our occupations as “factory worker and waitress” (kinda go nowhere careers); and unbeknownst to those in attendance that day in September, the young bride was 6 weeks pregnant. A recipe for disaster. But here we are, 53 years later, proving all the naysayers wrong. Joe got a BS from UT and worked 32 years at that factory job and then was a substitute teacher for 19 years. I worked my way up from “waitress” to secretary to Criminal Bailiff for 4 different judges in 32 years. I’d say statistically speaking, “they were full of crap”.
And I would very much agree with you. I'm glad that Brandon (and the other two bozos) have had such a great model of a marriage to look at - no matter how "doomed" you may have been in the beginning.